Let's Talk About Fear | Bepbeee Chats

6 May 2016


Hey everyone!

You might have seen over on my Instagram that I said all my posts from now on would be Spring and Summer themed. Well.. that didn't really go to plan.
I wanted to have a good ole' chat with you guys and talk to you about a few things before my other posts went up.
This type of post might make it into a series, I'm not sure but today I'm going to talk about fear.

I have a fear of dogs.
It all began when I (five year old me) was in park with my family and I had a tissue in my hand. There were quite a few dogs just roaming around and I was fine, it didn't really bother me at all. Until a puppy thought I had something for it to play with and it started to chase me. My first thought was to run too but without me knowing, it actually made it worse. I obviously hated the fact that a puppy was running after me and trying to jump up and get the tissue I had in my hand. I was terrified! My auntie opened her arms to pick me up and I don't know whether this could be absolutely true, but as she picked me up I could feel him still jumping up and felt some sort of hurting sensation on the lower back part of my leg. 
That moment will always stand out to me as one of the things that brought on my fear of dogs. There has been many other incidents that have happened in the past but as I have got older, my reaction to any of the incidents have got better.

Having a fear is okay. 
I find myself sometimes worrying about the fact that I have a fear and I sometimes think that my fear is embarrassing. But then I think that having a fear is fine, it's perfectly okay. No-one should be worrying about anything that makes them, themselves.

The thing that can be quite frustrating for me, is the way that I handle any dog situations that I may come across. 
Any walk, any park that I go to, an hour before I'm worrying about all the worst things that can happen and I want that to change. I turn down lots of opportunities because I'm worrying about the dogs that might be at that place I'm going to. 
My fear will never go away completely but I want to get better at handling it and saying yes to more opportunities. 

Here are some coping mechanisms that I use to help me with my fear that might help some of you too:

-Create a character
If any of you have read 'Girl Online' you will know that Penny had a character called 'Ocean Strong' that whenever she was worried, she thought of that character and it helped her to cope with some of the situations she went through. I think 'Ocean' came from what calmed her down. 
I have tried doing this one before and it really helped.
-Stop Fighting it
Fighting your fear will cause more stress and anxiety which is what you really don't want when you are already worried. You need to be willing to accept that you have a fear which will make you more comfortable with addressing it.
-Be open about it
There is nothing worse than bottling all of your worries up. Talk to family and friends and they will support you and try to understand.
-Visualise
Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm, it could be a picture of a beach or a happy memory. Let the positive vibes soothe you until you feel relaxed.

I really hope you have in some way enjoyed this post and I hope it has helped one of you out there!

'Fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress. In overcoming our fears, we can move forward stronger and wiser within ourselves.'

Bethan xx

18 comments

  1. Brilliant post! I'm also scared of dogs, and I'm glad you addressed the fact that you shouldn't be embarrassed by your fears.
    Thank you for making me realise this!
    Chloe x
    www.thoughtfulclouds.blogspot.com

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    1. Ahh thankyou so much! I'm so happy that it has helped you! Xx

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  2. I just learnt about phobias in Psychology haha! Im not sure what Im scared of really - probably heights :) Great post!
    www.kateejessicayoung.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. That's so interesting! Oh I don't like heights either!
      Thankyou! Xx

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  3. Very well done to you for plucking up the courage to write and actually publish a post like this! It's quite cool if you think about it. You're essentially writing a post out of your comfort zone, which is to do with fears, which are also out of your comfort zone, so that means you're extra amazing and courageous! I really do like this post and I'd love for you to create some kind of series out of it. Love the way you are so honest and open and you give some lovely, easy to follow tips at the end!! :)

    Jade xx | simplyjadey.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Aww thankyou so much! Yes, I was quite worried about putting up this post but I'm so glad it has helped a few people! I will definitely make a series! Xxx :)

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  4. I was terrified of dogs basically all my life. I think the fear started when I was 6. I didn't get over it until I was almost 15. Like I would scream and cry if I saw a dog. My neighborhood has a lot of dogs, some not so nice, so I refused to take walks up until this year, and I'm almost 19 cI don't mind dogs now but I'm WAY more of a cat person.
    ~Poodle
    www.omgshesarealballerina.blogspot.com
    www.balletandbroadway.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm glad that your fear has got better! Xx

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  5. I am terrified of heights but when I went absailing in year 6 I overcame my fear and now I love anything that invoves heights! X
    http://thepastelstyle.blogspot.com

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    1. Ahh that's so nice to hear that you overcame your fear! Xx

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  6. Great post Bethan! I was scared of dogs until I was about 9 because a similar thing happened to me! I think I'm scared of growing up the most, but I'm definitely going to use your tips!
    Charlotte <3
    http://vieaveccharlotte.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thankyou! Growing up scares me a bit too!! Hope the tips help xx

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  7. I love how you shared such a personal experience! Beautiful post I loved reading this Bethan! x
    Morgan | www.justmorgs.com

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  8. This is quite a different post to what I'm used to seeing but nevertheless I really enjoyed reading it,especially the tips.I hope you can beat your fear of dogs one day xx

    http://daisyypetals.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Ahh thankyou so much! I hope so too! Xx

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  9. Loved reading this post, hope your fear gets better and thanks for the tips x
    www.blossomofhope.blogspot.com

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    1. Ahh thankyou Laura! And your welcome xx

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